Last week we talked about being selfishly selfless as a rule to live by. If you did your homework, you should have a long list of things that you need to take care of in order for you to be operating at optimal capacity. Today, we’re talking about the next step in this process, which is: communicating your new rules.

In my experience, in my own life, one of the reasons I struggled to put this selfishly selfless concept in to place was because of how it was going to affect the other people in my life. For example, in the early days of my relationship we were on totally opposite schedules. I worked all day, he worked all night (well, almost). I’d often stay up and/or wake up when he got home in order to hang out and spend time together and hear about one another’s days. BUT, when my alarm went off at 6am the next morning – I was tired! And, as you know by now, I don’t do tired well. Something had to change, but, at the same time, I didn’t want to miss out on the opportunity to hang out with my boyfriend….what to do??

First – I had to get clear on what I really wanted – #1 to hang out w/ my boyfriend + #2 a good night sleep. So how could I be selfish in this case and get both? I needed to COMMUNICATE my new rules. So that’s what I did.

We came up with a new plan that included a special ‘date day’ every week, when we could coordinate our schedules in order to hang out and catch up with one another and meanwhile, there was no more getting up in the middle of the night. In retrospect, I realize that I was nervous to ask for what I really wanted out of some fear that I had made up in my own mind. (i.e. Would he commit to this new plan, would I miss out on something if I didn’t get up in the middle of the night, would my relationship last if I didn’t spend every chance I had to work on it?)

As you can imagine – none of this was true, but, I needed to experience enough pain (feeling exhausted all day) to realize that this wasn’t working for me. Then I needed to get clear on how things would work for me. And lastly, I needed to communicate what I wanted/needed to change in order for me to operate at optimal capacity. This is the same for you. After last week, you now know what you need – this week – communicate those needs/wants to those in your life who will support you in honouring you.

Let me know how it goes!!

All the best,

Heather White, CEO, 2020 Communications Inc.

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